Practical Techniques

Technique 1: Understand Their Preferred Recognition Style

Observe or discreetly inquire about how they best receive positive feedback:

• Do they prefer private acknowledgment over public praise?
• Is recognition of effort more meaningful than praise for innate talent?
• Would they value increased responsibility or learning opportunities more than verbal accolades?
• Does feedback from peers hold more weight than from superiors, or vice versa?

Tailoring the method of recognition is crucial for those uncomfortable with standard approaches.

Technique 2: Link Recognition Directly to Specific Impact

Focus on the concrete results of their actions:

• “Because you caught that error, we avoided a significant cost overrun.”
• “Your detailed preparation for the client meeting directly led to securing the contract.”
• “The process improvement you suggested has measurably reduced team workload.”

Connecting their actions to tangible, positive outcomes makes the recognition specific and harder to dismiss.

Technique 3: Recognize Contributions Within a Team Context

Acknowledge individual efforts while highlighting collective success:

• “The team delivered excellent results, and Jane’s analysis was particularly crucial to that.”
• “This project succeeded thanks to everyone’s effort, including Mark’s work on the backend integration.”
• “Let’s recognize the whole team for this achievement, noting the key contributions from each area.”

This approach allows individual recognition without singling someone out uncomfortably.

Why These Approaches Work

These techniques work because they:

• Respect individual preferences and comfort levels around attention.
• Focus on objective impact rather than subjective praise.
• Provide genuine acknowledgment without triggering modesty defenses.
• Align recognition with what the individual actually values.

Consistency Matters

Regular, low-key acknowledgment of contributions can be more effective for modest individuals than occasional grand gestures. Consistent, specific feedback builds confidence over time.

Additional Considerations

• Sometimes a simple, private “thank you” is the most effective form of recognition.
• Consider non-verbal forms of acknowledgment, like increased trust or autonomy.
• Be mindful that past experiences (e.g., negative reactions to praise) can shape current responses.
• Ensure recognition practices are perceived as fair across the team.

Related Tips & Concepts

See also: Creating Comfortable Acknowledgment, Balancing Modesty and Visibility, Understanding Spotlight Avoidance