Rather than making broad requests for guidance, focus on concrete problems or scenarios. Questions like “How would you handle this specific issue with the database?” are more likely to elicit detailed responses than “Can you tell me about databases?” Specific questions feel safer to answer and play to their problem-solving strengths.
Acknowledge previous instances where their knowledge proved valuable: “I remember how you solved that inventory tracking problem last year. I’m facing something similar with…” This approach validates their expertise while creating a natural opening for them to share insights based on established credibility.
Many Reluctant Mentors feel more comfortable sharing knowledge in casual conversations rather than formal mentoring sessions. A question asked during lunch or while working side-by-side on a project often receives more detailed responses than the same question asked in a scheduled meeting specifically for knowledge transfer.
These techniques work because they address the common reasons behind reluctance to share expertise. Many Reluctant Mentors worry about appearing boastful, being criticized, or having their knowledge dismissed. By creating low-pressure opportunities focused on specific topics where their expertise is already recognized, you make knowledge sharing feel safer and more natural.
Remember Boundaries
These strategies focus on creating comfortable opportunities for knowledge sharing, not pressuring someone to take on unwanted teaching responsibilities. Respect their communication preferences and pace.
See also: Understanding The Reluctant Mentor Type and Tip: Recognizing Indirect Mentorship
