Acknowledge particular achievements or contributions from their history: “Your experience handling the merger in 2008 is especially relevant to our current situation” or “The garden methods you developed over the years have clearly paid off in productivity.” Specific references demonstrate that you’ve genuinely noticed and valued their accomplishments.
Invite their input in ways that highlight the value of their accumulated knowledge: “Given your background in manufacturing, how do you see these new processes fitting in?” or “You’ve seen many market cycles—what patterns are you noticing in the current situation?” These questions position their experience as a valuable resource.
Explicitly recognize insights that come from extensive experience: “That’s the kind of nuanced perspective that only comes from years of doing this work” or “You spotted that issue immediately—that’s where experience really shows its value.” These acknowledgments validate that experience brings unique capabilities worth respecting.
These techniques work because they address a fundamental human need for recognition of life experience and accumulated wisdom. Many people who have invested decades developing expertise or navigating particular fields want acknowledgment that this investment matters and continues to have value. By authentically recognizing specific contributions and insights, you affirm their ongoing relevance and worth.
Remember Boundaries
Meaningful respect differs from empty flattery. Focus on genuine areas of experience and achievement rather than excessive or generalized praise, which can feel patronizing rather than validating.
See also: Understanding the Drive For: Need for Respect and Tip: Demonstrating Respect Actively
