Focus on questions that invite meaningful sharing rather than yes/no responses. “What’s the most challenging part of that project?” or “What aspect of this hobby do you find most satisfying?” encourages them to share the deeper aspects of their experience rather than just technical details. These questions often lead to more engaging conversations than “How’s the hobby going?”
Express interest in seeing their skills or projects in action: “Could you show me how that technique works?” or “I’d love to see that piece you’ve been working on.” Watching someone demonstrate something they’re skilled at creates natural opportunities for them to share their knowledge in an engaging way. Even a brief demonstration can be meaningful.
Take note of significant elements they’ve mentioned previously—project milestones, challenges they’re working through, or terminology specific to the hobby. Referencing these in later conversations (“How did that tricky glazing technique turn out?”) shows you’ve been paying attention and values their sharing, which encourages further connection.
These techniques work because they create authentic engagement without requiring you to develop the same level of interest or expertise. Most hobbyists appreciate acknowledgment of their passion more than they expect others to match their enthusiasm. By showing genuine curiosity about the aspects that matter to them, you create meaningful connection points while respecting different interests.
Remember Boundaries
Showing interest should remain authentic. It’s perfectly acceptable to limit the time spent discussing the hobby or to acknowledge when technical details exceed your interest level, as long as you do so respectfully.
See also: Understanding The Reclaimed Hobbyist Type and Tip: Supporting Passions While Maintaining Balance
