Demonstrate engagement through physical cues: maintain appropriate eye contact, turn your body toward them when they’re speaking, nod to acknowledge key points, and avoid distracting behaviors like checking your phone. These non-verbal signals communicate that you value the interaction and consider it worthy of your full attention.
Allow them to complete their thoughts before responding, even if their speaking pace is slower than yours or if you believe you already understand their point. This patience demonstrates that you value their complete perspective rather than rushing to your own response or assessment.
Verbally confirm you’ve heard and understood their perspective before adding your own: “Okay, I understand you feel the traditional approach has proven reliability” or “I see your concern about changing the established process.” This acknowledgment doesn’t require agreement but demonstrates that you’re genuinely processing their input.
These techniques work because they address fundamental aspects of how respect is perceived. Many people with a strong Need for Respect are particularly sensitive to signs of dismissal, impatience, or inattention. By demonstrating active listening through body language, allowing complete expression, and acknowledging their viewpoint, you create an interaction that genuinely feels respectful rather than merely performing politeness.
Remember Boundaries
While respectful communication is important, it shouldn’t require suppressing your own valid perspectives or needs. The goal is mutual respect, not one-sided deference.
See also: Understanding the Drive For: Need for Respect and Tip: Disagreeing Respectfully
