Explicitly recognize their role in bringing people together and maintaining family connections. Comments like “You really have a gift for getting everyone talking” or “It’s amazing how you keep track of what’s happening with everyone in the family” validate this important but sometimes invisible work.
Engage willingly in the positive traditions or routines they’ve established, whether it’s family dinners, holiday celebrations, or regular check-in calls. Your participation signals that you value these connection points and recognize their importance in maintaining family bonds.
Thank them specifically for their hosting or organizing efforts: “I really appreciate you organizing these Sunday dinners. They’ve become an important anchor in our family life” or “Thanks for always remembering everyone’s birthdays—it helps us all stay connected.” This explicit acknowledgment validates work that might otherwise be taken for granted.
These techniques work because they recognize a vital but often unacknowledged role. Many who fit The Jovial Patriarch profile derive significant meaning from facilitating family connections and traditions, yet rarely receive direct appreciation for this function. By explicitly valuing this contribution, you validate an important aspect of their identity and role within the family.
Remember Boundaries
Appreciating their connecting role doesn’t mean accepting problematic behavior or allowing them to dominate all family interactions. Healthy appreciation can coexist with appropriate boundaries.
See also: Understanding The Jovial Patriarch Type and Tip: Navigating Dated Humor Gracefully
