Generic compliments often fall flat with The Expert. Instead, mention particular instances where their knowledge made a difference: “Your insight on the Henderson project really helped us avoid that potential compliance issue.” Specificity demonstrates that you truly notice and value their unique contributions.
Invite The Expert to share their knowledge by asking thoughtful questions about topics where they have depth. Make sure these are authentic inquiries rather than quizzes or challenges. Questions like “How would you approach this situation given your experience with similar projects?” create natural opportunities for them to demonstrate expertise.
When you need to present an alternative viewpoint, first acknowledge the validity of their perspective: “That’s a good point about the traditional approach, and I can see why it’s worked well historically. Another angle we might consider is…” This approach maintains respect while still allowing for new ideas.
These techniques work because they address The Expert’s underlying need for recognition of their accumulated knowledge and experience. Often, their expertise represents years of dedicated effort and forms a core part of their identity. By genuinely acknowledging this, you create a relationship based on mutual respect.
Remember Boundaries
These techniques are about creating positive interactions, not manipulating someone for your benefit. The goal is genuine appreciation, not strategic flattery. Also, respecting expertise doesn’t mean you can’t introduce new ideas or approaches.
See also: Understanding The Expert Type and Tip: Acknowledging Experience
